help and advice needed pls

hello how are you ? i have read ur post and my heart really does go out to u ! it sounds like u have really had a bad past and are craving the love of ur parents.believe me i understand ur situation to some extent.thats all i can say hun is hopefully as time goes on ur parents may realise the damage they have done and will try everything to make it upto u i hope x good luck

Hi Hun, I so fed up putting spaces and things in my writting only for it to be posted very small and cramped. Anyway personaly I would reply and just say yes we need a heart to heart you pick the place and time then tell them you need a couple of hours and you need to say what you have got to say without being interupted. If this works then go through everything and see what they say at the end of it. If they just dont let you talk or dont want to understsnd then at least you have tried. At least you cant say should I or shouldint I like you are now give them one more chance. However thats only me I dont know what they are like and maybe you have gave them enough chances would one more hurt? I would love to know how you get on so post on this thread and let us know.

Beloved I feel your pain, because my partner is kind of going through a similar experience, in 2007 my partner was recieving disability living allowance and at the time was with her ex husband which I was at the time acting as her live in carer to make life easier for them. he was spending money left right and center as they was on benefits and he was attending college and when he tried to apply for benefits he was told that he was not able to as he had enough money from the college grants. every time that there was money, it would be spent on something silly, so what my partner did was take all her disability living allowance out of her post office account, and ask her mother to look after it. needless to say, because my partner suffers with depression her mother basically shunned her because of a lack of understanding that depression is an illness, her mothers exact words were "I managed to have twins and still come out on top, so why cant you". There is a lot that would need to be typed as I really do not want to go into detail. but long story short beloved. what you went through is too similar. I know that it hurts beyond words, because its your mother, and that you feel betrayed and that in time, hopefully you can get past that barrier, it does help to open up, even if it's just typing on here. It's all too easy for people to say "move on" but the reality is, no one knows until it's experienced by themselves. I would suggest speaking to your local gp, and asking him/her to refer you to a counsellor or find out about an organisation called Creative support, these guys were fantastic with my partner and hopefully you will be able to help you move forward in life. All the best for the future beloved.

Hi thank you for all your kind words, well the situation hasn't really changed although ive tried on a few occasions with mum and dad sat them both down and told them how i felt, to which my mother cried typical really she always makes out she's a victim too as it was her dad yet claims nothing sexual happened to her (he did rape her sister for 32 yrs) anyways i may as well of been talking to deaf ears as a month on nothing had changed all i wanted was a hug n a chat once a month. now in july 2010 still missing and wanting their love especially my mums but i realize its not going to happen ever,,, she chose to see her mother and father the other week as she misses them to me thats a kick in the gut why visit a rapist and a women who stood by him even if its your mum and dad .... how could she... mum says he's got cancer i couldn't care less im glad she said he hasnt got long what do they want from me im not given redemption to him fuck off ..then theres mum saying to me i miss my mum (my nan) i want to have coffee with her i lost the plot told her thats how i felt... yet again nothing so i give up!! my tablets are stable but im scared my physiologist has left i have a new one to meet im nervous as its a man and i hate men.

Hi belovedbubs,

My name's Rebekah and I'm a feature writer here at that's life!

It sounds like you've been through a terrible time with everything that's happened. If you'd like to have a chat to me about it to see if we're able to do a story, please get in touch. I'd love to hear from you.

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Best wishes,

Rebekah