the lost children issue 10

hi babe please read this post, Hi everyone, firstly I am new to these forums I have no idea how they work so heres hoping, I am the mother in issue 10 I thought if I could get my story out there I might be able to help someone, by giving hope. Public awareness is very important in this case, I tried before I got my children home, to have people listen to whats happening on a daily basis in the family courts, but noone will listen unless its all over. I have started a campaign so please visit= http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=383410559288, where you can read more please do not hesitate to contact me with any questions on the above page, I had some very dark days whilst fighting what seemed an unwinnable war, and had it not been for my family I am sure i wouldnt be walking this earth or at the very least in an asylum. I know there are other women out there sufferring just as I did, Please contact my group, show your support by signing my pledge and if you just need somewhere to talk about your own experiences feel free to post on the wall, I will try with the knowledge I have gained over the years to give advice, or start a discussion on the discussion board I am sure you will get some feedback from people in a similar situation, KEEP STRONG AND KEEP FIGHTING Love Kelly x

I found exactly the same when I was looking for support, lots of groups for fathers and carers none for mothers, I have started one of my own its called Wronged Mums on facebook do join and send me a message I am more than happy to offer support and advice if possible, Take Care And Keep Your Chin Up Love Kelly x

HI AM JOE AM A SINGLE PARENT 2 3 KIDS 2 BOYS 1 GIRL I READ UR STORY WHILE WAITING IN THE DOCTORS AND FOUND MY SELF ASKING WHY DO MOTHERS THINK THERE IS NOTHEN OUT THERE FOR THEM WHEN CLEARLY THERE IS MORE OUT THERE FOR THEM THAN THERE IS FATHERS MOTHERS THINK THEY HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS AND NO BEST AND US MEN ARE PUT TO THE SIDE !!! I HAVE BEEN GOING IN AND OUT COURT FOR YEAR MYSELF WITH MY EX SHE WAS GIVEN THE CHOICE OF THE KIDS OR HER NOW PARTNER AND SHE PICKED HER NEW MAN SO THE KIDS WHO WERE IN CARE NOW STAY WITH ME THE KIDS ARE HAPPY NOW BUT HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH THE KIDS WERE WITH THE CARER FOR 18MONTHS AND STILL HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH THE CARER THERE CHOICE AND AS A FATHER I WAS FINE WITH THAT THE AFFECTS IT HAS HAD ON THE KIDS THE CRAP THEY HAVE TO GO THROUGH NO 1 SEEMS TO THINK OF THE KIDS IN MY OPINION YOUR STORY THROWS UP A LOT OF QUESTIONS LIKE WHY DID IT TAKE U 8 YEARS TO GET THEM BACK ? THEY WERE PUT IN TO CARE FOR A REASON AND NOW U HAVE THEM BACK U JUST WANT TO BRING A BAD NAME TO THE SOCIAL SERVICES IF U WERE AS GOOD AS A MUM AS U TRY MAKE OUT IN THE MAG THEN THEY WOULD OF NEVER LEFT YOUR CARE I NO AM BEING BLUNT BUT AS AM GOING THREW THIS AM GIVING IT HOW IT IS FROM A MANS VIEW AS MOTHERS DONT ALWAYS NO WHATS BEST ! JOE

I am not aiming to belittle what you have been through in any way shape or form, I truly believe all children should be with their parents or one of them depending on circumstances, I just wanted people to know what I have personally endured, If you read the story you will know WHY my children went into care and that it had nothing to do with me, I was told by a reporter for the court that I am not the only mother to be going through this, I like your ex was not offered a choice, I was told if we stuck together as a family "meaning my husband and I " it would all work out, but this only made matters worse. People assume as a mother without your children you are scum? When in actual fact I done everything I could, there is no help out there for women like me, If however you are a drug addict or alcholic people and organisations fall over themselfs to help you, this my dear friend is the state of our nation, My children lived with a member of my extended family and I was constantly blackmailed and the greatest weapon they held was MY CHILDREN??????, My girls were not forgotten in all of this, I do however appriciate what you were saying about children being forgotten in it all, I know some people use their children like weapons, I have seen it actually as a child I lived it, People dont realise the effect they have on a childs mental development. My daughters were told all sorts about me and were encouraged to view me in a negative light, this ultimately has damaged them and they are subject to counselling, I only wanted to give someone hope, Procedure of family court is a long drawn out process and entire families live in limbo. For some it is too much to bear and statistics tell us the most common problem with family court proceedings is suicide and in later years with children teenage suicide, It begs the question Where is the justice? If I was a bitter person my ex husband would probably not have contact with my daughters but they love him, I see no fairness in taking that from them, They do not see their ex carers. All I can say legally is that thEre is an investigation in progress. I really dont know the ins and outs of your particular case I can only speak from my own experience, Its seems as though you only want what is best for your children, More parents need to overlook their own differences and see what is best for their children, some cases dont even need court, the adults should act like adults and amicably agree what is best, I dont want to bad mouth social services, some social workers do their jobs well, In my case however I was wronged on more than one occassion, I would like for you to look at fassit.co.uk You can probably find out some information there that will help you in some way, Whether children live with their mother OR father is not important,What is important is that they are in the best place they can be,That they are loved and cherished, protected and encouraged everthing else should just fall into place for them, I send you the very best of luck And love to your children Kelly