Too Fat To Adopt?

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sallyannh
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I just wondered what people thought of the story that was featured over several weeks recently, about the couple who were dieting so they could adopt. Personally, I felt very sorry for them, but I did think that Social Services had a point. Any child put up for adoption is likely to have had a stormy past and every effort needs to be made to make sure they have a stable future. Of course there are never any guarantees that both parents will remain fit, healthy and alive until the child reaches adulthood, but Social Services surely need to give the child the best chance of this happening. The last thing the child would need would be to lose a parent at an early age, or end up becoming that parent's carer at an early age because of ill health. Sometimes, love isn't all you need. I also wondered about the diet that they were on. To me, any diet that has you eating raw carrots with your boiled egg is doomed to failure, and perpetuates the myth that weight loss can only be achieved through deprivation and faddy eating. If they do lose the weight, I can see it going straight back on again because what they're doing isn't sustainable. I wish them well with their quest to adopt, and with their weight loss, but I think they'd do better to join one of the more conventional slimming clubs than to carry on depriving themselves.
girlface
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while i agree with you, if
while i agree with you, if she were to miraculously fall pregnant, would SS take the baby off her cos they are too fat ?! NO they would not. Neither of them look obese to me, just a tad overweight. And what does that matter, as they obviously have a lot of love to give.
xkristy1980x
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the diet is stupid
the diet iv read they am on is stupid theres beta diets out there , i eat more salads n walk quite alot n hav lost a stone so surely they cud try a diff way .
blu
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you have babies like poor
you have babies like poor baby peter connelly who was handed back to his mother time and again by social services to be beaten and tortured, because she was his "natural" parent, and so he was killed by the boyfriend, lodger and herself and could have been abused by anyone who came into the house. Then we have a loving couple with a stable inviroment, enough money to look after the child, all the time in the world to love and teach and care for the child....but oh they are over weight or oh they smoke or oh there over 40.... its rediculous....i know where i would rather peter have been brought up and i bet he would have done too!!!
sallyannh
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Adoption/fostering
Peter was left in that awful home through incompetence, not because there was a shortage of people wanting to adopt. Yes, of course it would have been better for Peter to have been brought up in a happy, loving home, but there are plenty of those available where the prospective parents have a good chance of remaining alive and healthy until the child reaches adulthood, and where the child wouldn't run the risk of becoming obese himself.