TRUSTING YOUR PARTNER

I have been with my partner 12 years. We arnt married and we dont live together he just comes over to stay a couple of nights a week.H e has cheated twice in the begining of the relationship but just lately he is working all hours practicly 18 hours a day 7 days a week. I start to wonder if he is really working!!! Hes still really affectionate when i do see him and then i feel guilty for not trusting him

Are you happy with the arrangment of him just coming over twice a week or would you like to live with him and start a family? I think that if your happy with it then dont worry if he is or isnt cheating live your own life, go out with your mates, go to work whatever you want to do with your life. Dont put your life on hold for him. You didnt mention whether you have children. If your not happy with the arrangment then i would ask for some sort of commitment after 12 years, say you want to settle down and have kids etc. Good luck to you you sound like a lovely person, dont waste your life, im talking from experience, ive been there done that. take care.

I have been married for 6 months but lived together for 3 months in pakistan, i am australian and i live in perth west aust, i met my current partner on the internet, and of course he told so many lies... i married xxxx by phone in nov 2007 and got to pakistan dec 24th 2007 and stayed with him til march 24th 2008.. I love him dearly and want to trust him, i really do,..and want to stay together..his last visa got rejected due to finanicial backing issues... so we intend to lodge another, but everything cost money and he promises faithfully to send money but never does, he hardly ever contacts me, as he dosent get on the net anymore and we always have network problems on the phone so we can only steal a few mins here and there... when he does call hes so lovey dovey and seems so perfect...as all middle eastern men come across, I KNOW HE LOVES ME, but i need more than love, i am 49... xxxx is my 8th legal husband.. i dont want to lose him.... BUT u need trust and commitment in a marriage.. ill stay in denial for a bit longer and HOPE !!!!