Women who don't want children

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Fri, 21/08/2009 - 09:49
Lynne Manson
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This is the first time I've viewed this site and I was really heartbroken to read that 85% of you think there's something odd about me because I don't have any desire to have a child. Where are those of you who think that and can you please tell me what it is about me that makes you think I'm odd? I'm 34 and have never had the yearning to breed. I have many children in my life, all of whom I love dearly, and get great joy from, but have no desire to have any of my own. I live a wonderful, happy life. I have great family, friends, a job I absolutely love, a beautiful home, a great social life, a wonderful man in my life and I really don't feel that anything is missing. I love having my evenings to myself, and having the choice of where and when I want to go on holiday, get up in the mornings etc. I don't think that makes me selfish, as has often been suggested,rather it makes me honest and true to myself. I am more concerned about those women who have children they don't want and are not any good at caring for them. I can't help but wonder that they are the ones a little odd.
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Sat, 22/08/2009 - 07:25
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welshchick
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not having children
I have 3 children and my life would be sooo boring if I didn't have them. But I have a twin sister, we are both 35, that doesn't have any children. The choice is entirely up to you. It's your life and no-one elses. I don't think you're odd :) It's completly life changing as you said, only time to yourself once the kids are in bed, very little social life partly due to lack of money nad unable to find babysitters, being woken up at 7am with kids using the bed as a trampoline, can't go too far on holiday because of bored, travel sick kids, then when you get there sitting through hours of kids entertainment in the clubhouse then when the adult cabaret comes on the kids are screaming because they are tired and you have to go back to your accommodation. I am also concerned about the women who have kids they don't really want.
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Fri, 18/09/2009 - 02:32
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blueeyes
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I honestly don't understand
I honestly don't understand why people find that weird or bad in any way. Why on earth should we have children if we don't want to??? I know I never want children!!! I can understand your point of view, I too would be happy with a nice man, a good job & stuff like that, I don't need kids to make me happy, they're not the be all & end all of life! I think there's this stupid attitude in society that thinks if you don't want to be a parent you must be some kinda freak, well if that's the case I'm happy to be labelled a freak!!! I'd rather that than be stuck with kids around my neck day in & day out, it's just not for me & i don't care if that sounds at all selfish!!! I've had a crummy enough life as it is, in fact i wouldn't call it a life, I'd call it a horrendous existance I want to LIVE my life not be tied down with kids! It's better to be honest & not have kids than have kids & not be a good parent & or be miserable just to "fit in" with societies dumb way of thinking!!!
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Sun, 11/10/2009 - 21:46
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Sakura
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You're not odd
I'm still only 16 and obviously too young to be a mum, but I do know about choices and opinions. Ignore those who think you're odd, if you have a happy life then who cares what others think, you're enjoying life and that's what life is all about - living it, whether you have children or not, dosen't matter. You have free time, lucky you! :D
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Sun, 01/11/2009 - 13:46
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sallyannh
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Just to add my support -
Just to add my support - I've children of my own but that was my choice. I love 'em to bits but I like to think that I'd have still enjoyed life without children. It is entirely up to you how you live your life and thank goodness these days women have the choice. I've never understood the accusation that people who choose to remain childless are selfish. Why? I chose to have children because I wanted them, so surely I'm equally as selfish. I think the people who knock the childless may have a tiny bit of jealousy lurking!
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Wed, 29/09/2010 - 20:39
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GlitterKitten
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I think you are wonderful
I think you are wonderful not to want children. I think a lot of women dont really want kids but they have them to fit in with friends and because everyone else has them and once they have them they dont really want to look after them. Children are everything to some people but they are also a nuisance and a financial drain. I dont really want to have children of my own either because I think the world isnt that nice and I wouldnt want to see what this country would be like in another 50 years. I think you can still have a wonderful life without kids. Good for you!!!
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Tue, 26/10/2010 - 13:19
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Laenri
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I'm so happy that this has
I'm so happy that this has been posted as a topic! I'm also CF and happy with my choice. Loads of my friends have kids, which is great for them but it's not something I want to do with my life. Thanks again for saying such positive things :-)
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